Submitted by jerry (not verified) on Sun, 03/02/2008 - 12:52am.
Im so glad to find this forum, I am 45 and have the problem with blushing. I hope this comments will help some of you. I have though about why I blush, it is not one thing but several things that contribute to it: 1) family dynamics-having a parent(s) that do not allow you to express yourself. 2) fear of what others might think of you-which translates to fear of rejection. 3) conflict with your sexuality (at an early age)AND your though of what others might think if they discover your secret. 4) you perceive the situation as a threat 5) feeling inferior to others or thinking others know more than you 6) fear of not being able to handle a situation. 7) feeling I'm always having to defend myself in a situation. However, this is what I have done to remedy this problem 1) feeling confident to express my feelings to my family. 2)knowing that you cannot please everyone, and if you cannot make them happy--who cares! 3) people will only know what you tell them about your sexuality--besides everyone has hangups 4) if I'm going to give a speech, I practice 10 times, visualizing the people in front of me. I practically memorize my speeches 5)not feeling inferior, I'm very important to some people. 6) I look for an 'escape' if I think the situation will be difficult. Good Luck
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Im so glad to find this forum, I am 45 and have the problem with blushing. I hope this comments will help some of you. I have though about why I blush, it is not one thing but several things that contribute to it: 1) family dynamics-having a parent(s) that do not allow you to express yourself. 2) fear of what others might think of you-which translates to fear of rejection. 3) conflict with your sexuality (at an early age)AND your though of what others might think if they discover your secret. 4) you perceive the situation as a threat 5) feeling inferior to others or thinking others know more than you 6) fear of not being able to handle a situation. 7) feeling I'm always having to defend myself in a situation. However, this is what I have done to remedy this problem 1) feeling confident to express my feelings to my family. 2)knowing that you cannot please everyone, and if you cannot make them happy--who cares! 3) people will only know what you tell them about your sexuality--besides everyone has hangups 4) if I'm going to give a speech, I practice 10 times, visualizing the people in front of me. I practically memorize my speeches 5)not feeling inferior, I'm very important to some people. 6) I look for an 'escape' if I think the situation will be difficult. Good Luck