Week Six of our Diablog: which of the following have posed the greatest challenge to you in making the transition to college?

alesnick's picture
Choices

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My desire for inclusion

I chose starting new relationships because that was a source of apprehension for me back at home as I prepared for my trip. I was used to having my phones ring a minimum of 7/8 times a day, besides receiving several text messages. I enjoyed the thrill of being a 'local champion', and knowing that i featured prominently in the thoughts of others; my students and their parents, former teachers, former classmates, family friends, personal friends, neighbors. So i was afraid of becoming insignificant, of losing my foothold. I knew that I would have to play an active role in cultivating and maintaining new relationships. Therefore, the very Sunday I arrived here I got in touch with the local congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses. They welcomed me with open arms and helped me move into my dorm. I also warmed up to some fellow students during international student orientation week, always smiling and striking up conversations with them on common interests. As a result, I made some good friends that I still hang out with till date. Moreover, my roommate and I made sacrifices to accommodate each other and we are the best of friends. Besides, the motherly support of my dean and the salient advice from my peer mentor helped in my adaptation. I have a huge host family, whose members check up on me weekly and I am happy.

thamid's picture

Starting new relationships

Starting new relationships was the greatest challenge when making the transition to college. The friendships that I made in high school were great and leaving them in the summer was one of the hardest things. The first few weeks I found myself comparing new people I met to the friends I had at home. As bad as it sounds, I put a standard up. I was trying to find a group of people that replicated my friends back home, but I knew it was not possible. I realized that I needed to create new relationships with people for who they are rather than how the compare.

I think I found this the greatest challenge of my transition because I felt that if I let go then the relationships at home would not be what they once were. But new relationships did not mean I had to let go of the old ones. This realization helped me overcome this challenge. I was not the only one creating new relationships, but my friends were too. We were all in the same type of situation. This idea made it easier to realize new relationships are a great thing. I now have my school friends and my friends from home. The situation was never “out with the old and in with the new” but as my friends who did Girl Scouts would say, “Make new friends but keep the old”.

S. Yaeger's picture

I just want you to know that

I just want you to know that you have gotten that song stuck in my head.

thamid's picture

Shannon, As I wrote this, I

Shannon,

As I wrote this, I could not stop singing it :). After reading your post I was curious, what triggered you going back to school?

 

S. Yaeger's picture

A variety of things triggered

A variety of things triggered my return.  To begin with, I was frustrated with working jobs where no one cared if I was smart or well read or even if I had ideas.  I was bored and I wanted to be challenged. I had aternated between serving and working in a cubicle and both were equally bad, but the cubicle job was what realy inspired me to think about school because it was unfulfilling and frustrating.  I was pretty scared about going back because I was worried that I wouldn't be able to keep up on my bills and still get decent grades.  Then, my best friend decided to go to graduate school after she was unable to find a job in her field.  She had to make a lot of sacrifices to do it, and it definitely didn't look easy, but she did it.  Seeing her do something I was so afraid of made me think that I should look into school.  So, I filled out a fafsa, started at the community college and just kind of became more and more committed as I went along, until I ended up at Bryn Mawr.  While it's alway been kind of odd to be an adult full time student, one of the most amazing "side effects' was that my partner at the time I started school dumped me, and I had to move out of our apartment and back into my parents' house.  I ended up getting hired at a restaurant near the house that same day, and that is where I met my current partner, who is wonderfully supportive and awesome.  I also got to meet so many new people who I never would have met otherwise.  

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Choosing a College

I picked choosing a college as the hardest challenge I faced when transitioning because I was lucky enough to have three different options for school. Part of what made the choice especially difficult was the difference in scholarships I got from each school – one of the schools I was accepted to was a city college located in New York (my home) and the program I got into meant everything was free.  I was deciding between that school and BMC – where I would still have to pay some tuition and room and board, so finances definitely played a role, but ultimately I chose BMC because I felt that getting away from the city was really important in my growth as a student and I prioritized the different life experience over what I would have to pay. 
I will be leaving BMC without student debt and I don't need to be in the work study program, though I will probably get a job on campus next year, if not next term. I'm extremely lucky to be in this situation. I do realize, though, that many of my friends didn't have the luxury to choose a school despite its financial package and it affects the way I approach my education. I value the fact that I can attend BMC because I know many people probably would have had to pick the school with a free program, even if they prefered BMC, because they couldn't afford to live with student loans or worry about juggling work study and school.

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I think that choosing a

I think that choosing a college would be the hardest thing about transitioning because you would have to decide what you want to be getting your education from for 2-4 years. Also, which ever one you would be comfortable in.

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Yeah.

I feel the same way because choosing the right or wrong college will make or break you in the future and it is very delicate to choose the right one...I get chills just thinking that the college I might choose might not be the right one for me....and I will be stuck with just that.....I don't know