Week 13--Bryn Mawr's Story

Anne Dalke's picture
So, as we move toward conclusion: think out loud a little bit here about your own experience with Bryn Mawr so far .... what kind of culture is it? what's its "story"? In what ways, in your experience so far, is it abling and disabling? Unconsciously? Consciously? What things in the readings confirm your sense of Bryn Mawr? What surprises you?
Madi's picture

I want to discuss a


I want to discuss a specific aspect of Bryn Mawr culture: residence halls. Not all residence halls are equal and the specific hall you live in has enabling and disabling attributes. Erdman, for instance, has the reputation for being the refuge of loners and study nerds. However, it is right next to the dining hall. Brecon is extremely far away from the rest of campus, but the people in Brecon form really tightly knit relationships. Radnor has the reputation for being a party dorm, which can be disabling depending on what your personality is. People could expect you to want to party when you really don't. I'm not sure what ResLife looks at when placing people in particular dorms, but I'd like to find out.

merry2e's picture

Class Summary

In class on Tuesday Anne began talking about the posts on BM culture and stating that she felt that there was a sense of goodbye in many of them. I found this interesting, as I being one of the ones who posted saying goodbye, feel a need to do so at the end of a project, relationship….etc. Anne only stayed on the goodbye topic for a matter of seconds which I found interesting. Our society places much pomp and circumstance on our final goodbyes in death to loved ones at funerals, but it seems to me at the end of something we work on intensely in our lives we just move on, not acknowledging the other people who have traveled with us on the journey, or not acknowledging our own places we have come from and where we have landed…we do not give power to endings, to closure, to new beginnings. We just move on.

We spoke about Bryn Mawr culture and the disabling or enabling affects. Some students felt social difficulties and others felt academic difficulties due to BMC culture. Some students shared personal experiences of how they finally chose to come to Bryn Mawr College and their struggles with actually getting to Bryn Mawr College. We talked about the Summer School program for Women Workers that M. Cary Thomas started and how it impacted the three McBride students in the class.  Anne educated us on the Posse Program and how it began.

In my opinion, in comparison to other classes, I felt there was“quietness” amongst the women. I know for me it is hard to say goodbye though I know I will see most of you again on campus, in the library, in another class, or in the next dorm room over, but it will never be the same, intimate group situation we experienced in Storytelling as Inquiry.  

Alison R. Mouratis's picture

Why is it a matter of life and death?

I remember when I first came to stay overnight on campus. I told myself I wasn’t going to like it. I told myself it wasn’t the right school for me. An all girls school? NO WAY! I like, guys…I love guys, but I knew right away from the feeling I got when I stepped on campus that this was the place for me. But was that feeling affected at all by the fact that it was one of the most reputable schools on my list of acceptance letters? And was that feeling affected by the fact that I knew my parents liked the school too? Since when did it become, “I can’t wait for me and my parents and my teachers and my friends all go to the same school”? What I mean by that is since when did it become so important what other people thought of us and of our education? “Where’d you get in?” was the question on everyone’s lips. The shame you felt when you were rejected was something you could not hide from your friends and family. But I guess I just don’t get it. How can you ever know what place is right for you? As we discussed in class on Tuesday, what about the two sides of everything? There is always the social side and the academic side. How can you balance two such weighty layers? I really do like it here, but of course there are some aspects that I find lacking. But how do I know if that would be any different somewhere else? Maybe it would be worse, and then what? I would argue that there are many disabling aspects of Bryn Mawr, but isn’t that a natural part of any “community”? If you transfer to another school, won’t you also be met with disabilities? Perhaps different ones, but disabilities nonetheless. How can you weigh what disabilities you can stand and which ones you can’t?

And what about your friends who are “in love” with their schools…how is that possible? Aren’t there disabilities in every community and school? Unless, of course, it were somehow possible to not fall in a category that would disable you. Is there a way to avoid completely the disabling qualities of a community? Can you simply be completely unaware and unaffected to any disabling factors in your school or in your community? Would that be bliss? Or would that be ignorance?

akerle's picture

laurels

 

As I read about how Bryn Mawr was the more I wonder about what Bryn Mawr could be. There are many things I appreciate about being here- and many things I am learning about myself. I wonder though, if Bryn Mawr is disabled as a school and as a culture by its own prestigious history. 

Is Bryn Mawr is floundering in this modern world where life doesn't revolve around the Classics? Maybe we are too deeply entrenched in the academic world to be able to look around and see whats important.

I think this school could return to its old place in the minds and hearts of the general poplace- we just need to rethink some old ideas.   

anonstudent01's picture

Bryn Mawr Culture

Going off of discussion today, I feel like the history and original intent for the education received at Bryn Mawr still has a huge impact on current students. Bryn Mawr is meant to be a place where women can receive a world class education with which they can make a palpable difference in the world. However I definitely see the masculine influences in the departmental priorities and in the administration's presence. Women are conditioned to be independent and to seek out the opportunities available to them, and also to be prepared to constantly be personal advocates for their education. I feel like the departmental weaknesses in the arts is an issue that needs to be addressed, and the school's endowment is not a justifiable reason for having a lacking department in that area while the maths, sciences, history and other more masculine and "academic" departments are incredibly strong. I agree with what Antonia said today, the school appears to be resting on its laurels a bit instead of progressing forward. While other women's schools are having a renaissance of interest and accomplishment within their walls, Bryn Mawr seems to be a bit cold and the sense of community goals and subsequent progress is just not there. Bryn Mawr's story, like any story, has the potential to take a turn for the better and I am hopeful that in the four years I'm here it will. 
Paul Grobstein's picture

past and future

Some more thoughts from class discussion. That perhaps bear on what Bryn Mawr has been, and we would like it to become? Maybe it is better to be smart and discontent than beautiful and comfortable (as per Antonia)?
ashaffer's picture

The best of both worlds?

Antonia raised an interesting question in our class a few weeks ago (that I think orginally came from a question her sister asked her):

"Would you rather be pretty or smart?"

(which goes with an assumption that if you are pretty you will be content and in community, but if you are smart you will be discontent and ostracized.)

Something I sort of stumbled over in my paper on cyber-culture was the idea that information can really change things- like, if you are smart, you can get a good job, make money, and BECOME beautiful (plastic surgery, etc.) So, knowledge/information can allow you to kill two birds w/one stone.

Does knowledge lead to the best of both worlds?
nmuntz's picture

In November of last year, I

In November of last year, I had no idea where I wanted to go to college, or even where I wanted to apply. Since both my parents work full time it was pretty difficult to even get the chance to visit schools, so my mother hired a woman whos job it was to help find the right colleges for people. Her name was Ann and she was very helpful. I told her I wanted a small school, I wanted to do Archaeology, and that I didn't want to move too far away. She suggested Bryn Mawr which I was a little hesitant about at first due to the all girls thing. My brother went to Swartmore, so I knew of BMC, but I hadn't actually visited. He took me to look at Swat and Haverford but not BMC. Of course, when I did visit Bryn Mawr for the first time, 5 days before the early decision application was due, I fell in love with it. This school has history, an excellent reputation and it felt like home.

I have to say I absolutely adore Bryn Mawr. There are very few things that agrivate me about it. I love the campus (though it would be nice to not live so far away in Brecon) the people are all very nice, classes are challenging and I feel that the education I get here will really help me make a difference in the world. Bryn Mawr has produced outstanding women, and I intend to do my best so that I can some day be one of them.

akeefe's picture

All the world...well my world at least

M. Carey Thomas and I have something in common, a love of theatrics. It’s was evident to me the moment I stepped onto Bryn Mawr’s Campus that something inside me felt settled and reassured. There was a drive I felt here that was hindered other places, and the notion that my own expectations could drive my reality was unleashed. I’d walked onto a stage.

I have been on stages for years. I like performing. I like seeing what I can do with myself, but more than any other part of the performance process, I love rehearsal. I feel like the real magic comes from shifting in and out of the character you could be. A good actress doesn’t act things she isn’t; she finds the places in herself which match the scene, the context, and occasionally the script.

Walking into Bryn Mawr is like walking onto a set with something in progress. We are perpetually performing who we are or rehearsing that person we might become. We shift in and out of our romantic roles, within a sphere of forgotten or condensed time.

So much more is possible in a world like a stage. Our endless days are the plot of our being. Our failures are merely the stumbling blocks that spin heroines forward, and our successes can mean all that we dare to dream up.

Allyson's picture

This last set of readings

This last set of readings was extremely well arranged to conclude the semester. The first reading was simply captivating with its great detailing of Bryn Mawr’s rich history. It made me both proud and excited to be a Mawrter and it also led me to view the pieces about the Bryn Mawr Summer School for Labor in accordance with my own affinity for the school.

 

You see, from my perspective, I always thought Bryn Mawr was the type of school that you only attend if you really want to be here because: a) it’s difficult; b) it’s a women’s college; c) it’s very…quirky; d) it’s expensive. That does indeed seem to be it’s legacy based on the first reading. And from the second reading I was able to confirm my belief about education that says that the best educational experience is one with people who genuinely wish to be experiencing it. This is why, when I hear that people are dissatisfied with BMC, I become a little upset because not only is their educational experience compromised, but so is mine. There are few things more discouraging to the learning process than a person who has no interest in being there, and thankfully I’ve run into a relatively small amount of those people. I feel almost as if our CSEM is a good example of an environment comparable to that of the eager female laborers in the Bryn Mawr Summer School. Although we are not quite in the same situation, I still feel that, for the most part, we are a group of young women who are really excited about learning and have immense potential to make a  difference in the world.  

Allison Fink's picture

Education

The reading is making me think a little more about what it means to be an educated woman in college. Women from the time period when Bryn Mawr was founded, such as Carey Thomas, seem to me to be very strong, heroic individuals, and it was inspiring to read about the great souls who oversaw the founding of the college, and their sense of mission in education for it to be an improvement on the other women’s colleges. Their society never told them that women were supposed to be strong. They already had such a strong sense of self that just made them assume that they could do whatever they wanted even though their society never expected of them. I honestly think that it’s sad but true that “Encouraging women to fulfill their potential was after all, still an incendiary practice in a sexist world. It could be argued that it remains one to this day.” (quoted from The Women of Summer) So, are women here really encouraged to fulfill their potential at Bryn Mawr? From my time here so far, which is short, I’m not sure yet. It seems that people need to have a lot of interest in something first, rather than just taking the exam or writing the paper for the grade and then not thinking about it anymore. I admit that I am used to doing things on that level, and so to leave something open ended and expect you to make learning your own and to do it because are self-motivated to work at something from your own interest, is something that I still need to adapt to. But I am optimistic that I can do that and in so doing, fulfill more of my potential, because to fulfilling one’s potential means being self motivated and self directed. And I am starting to get the sense here that it is up to you.
redmink's picture

Tear

                People become more emotional at night than in the morning.  While reading my dearest people's posts, and remindnig myself of that this is the last post of CSEM (although I will continue to come back and post even after graduation as an alumnae), I cannot resist being emotional.  My roommate who started a trend of shedding tears is on her bed.  Sleeping Beauty, Bell, and Cinderella in the poster that she brought after Fall Break are smiling at us.  It's still amazing how we became dwellers in an extremely narrow, 80F degrees room on 4th fl of Merion.  So nervous of handing in the first CSEM paper on time, we woke each other up in the morning.  So amazing that I've met every one of you! 

                    Living in the oldest building, it was so interesting to read the history of Bryn Mawr from the foundation of each dormitory to summer school.  During open campus, I sat in Calculus class to experience the academic envionment at Bryn Mawr.  And I wondered if Park Science Building was built/donated by a Korean because most Koreans' last name is Park.  (I used to think Linkin Park was Korean too) But It's presumptuous to conclude it that way.  Back in the time, there was no Korean, not even one.  So, it didn't make sense, but that was one of my thought while reading this.

                    Bryn Mawr was my dad's first choice.  His co-worker's daughter went to Bryn Mawr, and during my senior year, she handed me "361 best colleges" by Princeton Review to my dad to study into varieties of American schools.  My dad circled the name of Bryn Mawr College in red sharpie marker.  When I sat down to write my college application, I was moved by the system of Bryn Mawr college application fee.  The college gave me an option to donate the application fee to any charities.  No other colleges offered such a practical, ethical, and beautiful way to receive the application fee. 

                    After submitting all my applications to about 10 colleges, I heard several interview requests.  Most interviews were held at Starbucks.  With all my interviews done, Bryn Mawr interview was the last one.  I would not have requested interview for Bryn Mawr if I had not seen the charity option of submitting a college application fee.  Unlike formal interviews of other colleges, I sincerely wanted to meet the alumnae in person and desperately wanted to know about the college.  Bryn Mawr's interview was located in some building in Manhattan.  Very impressive!! I was hillariously happy that it was not Starbucks any longer.  The formal location of interview, and very polite receptionist smiling at me were very impressive.  Bryn Mawr's special from the beginning.

                 My interviewer, who is now a graduate in NYU, majored in mathematics and psychology at Bryn Mawr.  I told her the dwarf story when she asked me why I wanted to study pre-med and become a doctor.  I was nerve-breaking and could not think of an English word, dwarf, while telling a 'dwarf story.'  But she understood me.  So many episodes during that interview.  Thank her, I made it and sitting in CSEM class telling people the dwarf story.  (still nervous to think of words, most of words are the results of slips of the tongue, though. haha)

                I love Bryn Mawr (to shorten my elaborate sentimental history)  It's a perfect place for me to truly be myself.  I love you all. 

                   

merry2e's picture

The Ghost of BMC and Childhood Dream

I found the readings fascinating…I loved learning about the different architecture, from Thomas Hall to Taylor Hall. When I applied to the McBride program and was contemplating what to write for one of my essays (on why I wanted to come to BMC), I began with how the architectural design called to me even when I was an eight year old girl delivering flowers to students on campus. As a child, I imagined myself as a student walking the halls and the aroma of old books shelved in the library filling my olfactory senses. I dreamt of the bell tower, fairies, and young women dancing in the snow. When I grew up (or shall I say, “aged in years”) I came to realize that the dream of attending BMC would stay a child’s fantasy, at least for awhile…

The ghosts or spirits of BMC became a part of my soul as I walked the campus as a youngster and here I am at thirty-six years old, following in the footsteps of many intelligent, powerful, beautiful women from around the globe. Dreams really do come true. It is amazing the impact that we, as women, can have on the world. I wonder if Thomas’ ever imagined that 100 years later there would be a program such as the McBride Scholars Program or other ones such as these at BMC? I am proud to say I am a McBride Scholars student and part of a community of women who strive to include ALL women. I want to thank all of you for walking the CSEM part of my journey with me. It has been quite a stimulating, at times difficult ride, and I would not trade it for the world. Every single one of you are unique and have amazing adventures ahead of you…thank you for all of your stories…until we meet again, much love and big hugs! Meredith

Hyperpuffball's picture

Motivations and the Heart

I know only a few people have posted, but most of the postings seem focused on the author's "Coming to Bryn Mawr" story: how they came to be here, how they felt about coming here, and the reactions of their friends and family. Seeing how most of our reading focused on how Bryn Mawr was begun, this makes sense.

I too am compelled to share my story:

Because of my relationship with my parents, in preparation for the college application process I completely ignored any schools nearby- I flat out refused to even think about UPenn, Drexel, and even Bryn Mawr. Swarthmore was my only concession to the wealth of colleges in the Philadelphia area.

I was familiar with Bryn Mawr: my aunt is an alum, and my mother's best friend is the modern dance instructor here and often requests my mother's aid in creating costumes for the fall and spring dance shows. I often would come with Mom to bryn mawr to snip threads and take measurements.

What this came down to was I simply did not want to consider bryn mawr as a viable choice for my college life.

This changed a few days before the due date for bryn mawr's application: my father convinced me to apply for his sake. Not even to consider the college itself, just to apply to see if I would get in. I agreed, but with some reservations. I still wasn't interested in attending bryn mawr.

After the chaos was over, I hadn't been accepted to my top two choices Cornell and Wesleyan. I did, however, have several good options in my safety schools Drexel, University of Delaware, and Temple. I had been accepted to Bryn Mawr but STILL felt unsettled at the thought of actually attending.

Something strange happened when I attended Accepted Student's weekend, though. I knew that I was comfortable at bryn mawr, that I felt at home and accepted even before I had decided where to go. However, being stubborn, I refused to admit it outloud to myself or anyone else. It was inconceivable for me to let myself think that I could succeed at bryn mawr.

I eventually ended up choosing bryn mawr based (as I thought, anyway) soley on financial aid. I still felt unsettled two weeks before Customs Week began.

It wasn't until I really began packing that I realized that I was looking forward to going to bryn mawr, that I was excited about not just the academics but the campus, these women, the environment, the dorms, the activities, everything.

Ever since I decided to let my desires be heard, I have been ecstatic to return, sad to leave, glad to have, joyously celebrating the freedom and community that Bryn Mawr has given me. There is nothing else in my life that can compare to how I feel about this college as a whole. this is something that I don't really feel that my parents understand: they see bryn mawr as only a very good an academic institution. I know this assessment to be lacking in several areas, but I do not argue.

I rather enjoy keeping my happiness to myself. It lets me treasure my "mistake" all the more.

Audra's picture

Dream Journal

I find stories from the past that relate to my life to be dreamlike and somewhat disconcerting. The first reading had me floating in mid air as Merion was built around me. Carey Thomas's Bryn Mawr revealed a very familiar world that just didn't feel quite the same as my reality. Just as my dreams often bring some subconscious ickiness to the surface, the reading highlighted the ickiness of Bryn Mawr's beginnings. I wake up with a better understanding of where I come from, even if the learning process has shaken me a little.

Thomas's unbridled ambition, materialism, and disregard of Taylor's vision sheds a less-than-ideal light on the woman who originally defined Bryn Mawr and therefore on the college itself. Also, the articles on the summer school force me to ask myself if I appreciate my education as much as I should. They also make me question how effective the education is: if I can skip a few math classes and make up for it by reading the text book, is it my fault for choosing an insufficiently challenging class or is it the school's fault for offering courses that could just as easily be learned from a book?

Sleep well,

Audra

calypsse's picture

Once again the reading

Once again the reading became very personal for me. When I was in high school my life was a disaster, I actually failed 3 classes and was not even planning on taking them again until my best friend insisted so that I could go to College with her and take some of the art classes she was so in love with. In order to graduate from high school I had to go to a night school where not only was I the youngest but they used to look at me funny because I had attended a private school. Later, while in College I had to take a year and a half off and was quite discouraged from going back to school. Eventually I did, and for some reason a couple of my professors took an interest on me and harassed me until I applied to transfer to a 4 year college. Because I didn't have to take the SAT back in texas I was forced to withdraw most of my applications, I was actually already enrolled in another College in WA, they contacted me to tell me that I was admitted to the McBride program at Bryn Mawr (at first the joke was that I was going to lesbian heaven). 
 
I saw so much of my own story in the last couple of stories about the women worker's program. I've also been given "a second chance to get it right this time," I used to work up to 12 hours at a restaurant, just like some of the girls of the story, if I didn't work I wouldn't eat, I knew I could call my father and ask for money, but I'm not only too proud for that, and there was a good deal of self-satisfaction involved. The same satisfaction I feel at been here, on my own, and experiencing what I always dream for. 

Elisa

hannahpayne's picture

Bryn Mawr

I'm not quite sure how to categorize my experience at Bryn Mawr yet. At first I wasn't sure if it was the right choice. I was one of those people who didn't know where to go to college until the money was due. Even after I sent in my deposit I was undecided. So over these first few months here I've given a lot of thought to my choice about coming to Bryn Mawr. And what I've decided is that there are some flaws but I think there are flaws at any college. I also think that because it is such a unique place, that I wasn't sure if I liked right away, it made me question what's important to me. What I've found out is Bryn Mawr, more than other schools, is what you make it. If you go out and find the things that you want to do, they are there. Things may not be handed to you but that’s not what life is like. I have friends at college who are absolutely in love with their schools but haven't taken the time to think critically about their experience. 

As for the culture of Bryn Mawr...

It’s a very unique culture. One criticism I have of it is that it is not as inclusive as I would have liked. I feel like it is kind of cliquey and many people keep to themselves or their small group of friends. 

And the whole all women thing has both positive and negative aspects. It is disabling because it tells only one side of the story, we rarely hear things from a male's perspective. And limiting perspectives is never a good idea. But on the other hand, having only women allows for a breakdown of stereotypes that are disabilities to co-ed culture. For example the notion that men are better at math and science than women. Here, because everyone is female there is no pressure to do one thing or another, everyone is free to do what they want.

ashaffer's picture

A different slant

I generally think of myself as fairly scientific, an inquisitive mind with a desire to stay skeptical, reach for objectivity, and play devil's advocate, but I think underneath all is an idealist. Please indulge me as I move away from anthropology into personal opinion for a moment;-).

I have always loved fairy tales, something that I realized anew as a result of this class. I think what I love about them are the principles and ideals in them- the courage of the hero or heroine, the danger, the struggle, the triumph, the discovery of what a person is made of, the stark honesty in how he/she acts under extreme pressure- I love it!! On a certain level of fancy, I think this is why I chose Bryn Mawr- the readings brought out some of the ideals that make my heart race and fill with pride. No, her history is clearly not perfect or completely without areas of disappointment, but the fact that this place began as an institution committed to challenging women to question and learn, and use these skills to effect change in the world- and is still doing so, makes me confident that I came to the right place. I think as much as each of us takes the responsibility of making the most of our education, we can uphold this standard and meet this expectation- a challenge that I try to constantly remember. This reading confronted me a bit on my cavalier attitude towards learning that I seem to have slipped into and has made me eager to voraciously attack my subjects rather than passively just existing during my short time here.
christa wusinich's picture

Bryn Mawr Readings...

The Bryn Mawr story begins "In 1877 when Joseph Wright Taylor decided to found a Quaker college for women"(Horowitz 105). The story gets better with M. Carey Thomas, a captivating woman full of idealism and committed to the ardent application of her dreams for Bryn Mawr College. It's a shame M. Carey Thomas had a bribe attached to her aquisition of Bryn Mawr's presidency(Mary Garrett promised the school $10, 000 a year ,a hearty promise in 1893). The bribe suggests the falsehood that M. Carey Thomas was in some manner unworthy for the position. Her success leaves little room for doubt! Though enamored by Thomas, her dream, her world seemed very exclusionary to me...it said to me: Only some of us get to live in castles or tucked away in cottages...

I was formerly unaware that Bryn Mawr had a summer program for nearly two decades, a program for working women usually forcibly driven by necessity over any passionate pursuit. And it all began with Thomas ruminating in the Sahara desert.

Particularly fantastic was Louise Brownell Saunders's account of re-entry into academia after years led her to say her "Bryn Mawr dream died away"(13). She met women who were starving for education and how wonderful it felt for her to be feeding the hungry. These non-traditional students, in fact, compelled the faculty to work harder. I thought of a room filling with water pressuring the doors to burst forth and release a repressed consciousness to these thirsty workers who had missed opportunities, perhaps, until now.

L.B. Saunders had this to say of her students, "Their class consciousness, the religion of the unions, makes them impatient of anything narrowly individual"(15). This brings to the fore, my question(s) Why am I doing this...this college thing that can be very isolating,that makes me account for myself singularly amongst others? As a returning student (and maybe myself a Bryn Mawr experiment?),it has been difficult to adjust to the lesser degree of human interaction in my life. I see it as a sacrifice that will reap rewards and I hope I am right in seeing it this way. I see my ambition (though sometimes wavering) as a necessary evil in a way. I crave the broader context, the open world beyond the groves.

 

carterian's picture

I think it's interesting to

I think it's interesting to see the beginning of this school. I think a lot of people like to think of their schools as having a good, honest beginning. And, most schools just don't have that.

At Bryn Mawr we like to play up the fact that Katherine Hepburn came here. From the sources that I have read, Hepburn really didn't like Bryn Mawr. It seems that it was similar to the way that it started out: a school for rich girls.

That really stuck out to me when reading about our school that even though we had a lesbian, super liberal, female president, money was such an important aspect to the school. And apparently she spent it lavishly.

I feel like I can still see a little bit of the rich beginnings that started this school. Certainly, it is not in to the degree that it was, but I have noticed that most of the women that come here have grown up in an upper-middle class environment (me included) and many have gone to private school.

It's just interesting to see the differences and similarities from our school's beginning to the present.

ErinDoppelheuer's picture

BMC

When I was applying to colleges, Bryn Mawr was honestly not on my list.  I had all co-ed schools on my list, but then my mom suggested that I add the school and she said that I didnn't even have to have it in my top 5, just have it as something in the back of your mind.  She suggested BMC becasuse she went to Colorado Women's College.  So I applied to all 12 of my schools including Bryn Mawr and when I started recieving relpies from the schools that I had been accepted I had to start narrowing them down.  As I narrowed them all down, I realized that Bryn Mawr was one of the top schools on my list.  I visited Emory, Vanderbilt and Bates (which was way to cold to even consider farther), but I began to like Bryn Mawr more and more as I read about it and when I visited.  I loved Emory and Vanderbilt, but they were too city for me.  Bryn Mawr turned out to be exactly what I was looking for, except for the all women part.  When I visited the first time, I wasn't feeling the atmosphere, but when I came back a second time, the campus, the people, the atmosphere, everything seemed to fit.  The all women's thing didn't effect my decision anymore. 

So over the summer I felt as if I had made the correct decision, but all my friends thought I was crazy because the majority of my friends back home are guys and I really don't like the cadiness of girls.  I didn't listen to them, but once I got here, I understood why they said those things.  My first weeks here were very difficult to get used to. It wasn't my room mates, it was the rest of the school.  If I were walking along the sidewalk with another friend and 2 people were coming towards us, they wouldn't move and they thought it was our responsibility to move.  I have never been in that type of society where people think they are above others.  People also look at you with a glare based on the way you dress.  I have just never been in such a judgemental society before and it caught me off guard.  One thing that I do find disableing about this culture is the all women's part.  I know that we have a tri-co system, boys do roam our campus, but how many times are you going to just stop one and bring up a conversation, not often.  I think that the all women's culture will hurt our ability to have conversations or even branch out to the opposite sex.