This Is Your Brain on Porn: Pornography Addiction, Society, and the Brain

Cayla McNally's picture

Many of my drug using, sex crazed friends have said at least once that having an orgasm and doing a line of cocaine create the same feelings within the brain. I am able to understand why there is a chemical change when participating in a sexual act, but I cannot comprehend how people can be addicted to pornography, which has virtually no interaction with the viewer. Sexual acts that one partakes in, like all activities that one partakes in, changes the chemical reactions and firing rates in the brain; so why is it that viewing pornography, which is a mainly optical activity, can change the brain, and even more than that, create an addiction? Simply put, pornography addiction is the “abuse and overuse” (1) of various types of pornography; however, on a deeper level it is a very complicated subject. It raises both medical and social questions, and it is uncertain if the answers to these questions will ever be agreed upon. It is one of the few addictions that are just considered to be a psychological addiction; possibly because of that, most doctors do not consider it an actual addiction, but instead as a sub-condition of obsessive compulsive disorder (1).

While it is not considered a legitimate disease by many, pornography addiction does have similar symptoms: those affected are not able to control how often they engage in the behavior, engage in it to rid themselves of stress, work up a tolerance to it, and engage in the behavior instead of having social and personal interactions (1). These symptoms, especially the ultimate, have been exacerbated by the drastic increase of internet porn, which makes the medium readily available in the privacy of one’s own home. The extra convenience has occurred hand in hand with increasing opposition, stating that pornography in the home has effects on not only the person viewing it, but also those who stumble upon it, such as children. Many see it as a perversion of the home, and not as a real disease.

Another aspect of the addiction that makes it scientifically legitimate is the changes that occur in the brain when one engages in activities involving pornography. When an addict looks at porn, testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin are released, creating what Dr. Judith Reisman refers to as an “erototoxin” (2). The chemical change, which causes the person engaging in the act to have a temporary feeling of euphoria, becomes a necessity for the person to function. Like any other type of addict, porn addicts become trapped within their disorder, and the difference between casually watching pornography and being an addict hinges on the chemical makeup of the brain.

Pornography addiction is still very controversial, because the issue of its existence is still being constantly disputed. Scientists and moralists are entangled in a possibly endless argument, both publicly and privately, over the legitimacy of the addiction, as well as the differences between pornography addiction and other addictions, such as drug or alcohol addictions. While Dr. Judith Reisman agrees that viewing pornography causes a chemical change within the brain, she also believes that these changes will create a physical deterioration along with the psychological effects; however, as a critic of Reisman pointed out, “One unmentioned implication [of Reisman’s article] is the fact that, if sexual arousal from pornography causes 'brain damage', then so will real-life sex” (2). Since there is a reasonable possibility that having sex and viewing porn cause the same sort of stimulation in the brain, it would make sense that every time one engages in sex, one loses part of one’s mental faculties. Currently, there is no data to prove that this is true, and it appears as if there is no affirmative data about viewing pornography as well. Another issue of an addiction to porn is that while, with most drugs, it is possible to work all of the chemical out of the body after a certain amount of time, a pornographic image will stay in the memory as long as the memory exists. In a far more extreme interview, Dr. Judith Reisman stated, “[Pornography] could be more addictive than crack cocaine because cocaine can be excreted from the body. Pornographic images cannot. They remain, structurally and neurochemically, with a person forever” (3). She, as well as many others who believe that pornography addiction has more detrimental effects than other types of addiction, take the issue of addiction out of the scientific, and drag it into the sociopolitical. n

Personally, the research for this paper has raised more questions than it has answered. I am still unsure as to why it is considered a disease that branches out from obsessive compulsive disorder, as opposed to being on its own as a disorder. All addictions are obsessive, but not all are part of another disorder. It seems to me as if the squalor surrounding pornography addiction, not its scientific merit, has prevented it from becoming its own legitimate psychological disease. This has caused me to question how addictions are understood and proceeded with in both scientific and social realms, and also to understand that the variables of what determines a disease are not necessarily solely based on science or facts; much more plays into a disease than I had ever contemplated, especially ones that relate to something as that is discussed so much socially, morally, and politically, such as pornography.

  1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography_addiction
  2. http://www.mindhacks.com/blog/2005/07/attack_of_the_porno.html
  3. http://www.ewtn.com/library/ISSUES/REALKINS.HTM

Comments

Jeremiah Bullfrog's picture

Only purpose of LIFE is to

Only purpose of LIFE is to create MORE LIFE. That is done with sex. If we can't actually F as many women as we want, sometimes we have to sit around and fantasize with our dicks in our hand.
If it was up to me, I'd F 5 times per day at least.
END GAME.

Serendip Visitor's picture

this seems hold true for me

I got porn addiction for awhile and would look for more hardcore/darker stuff if you will the more times you get into it. It really is best to limit yourself.

Serendip Visitor's picture

true true

i couldnt agree more with you. the more i looked the darker the stuff got.. from realistic scenarios to public disgrace and gang banging and terrible things. I believe it is a real addiction. as is sex.. i have an app on my iphone 4s called PSA... porn and sex addictions.. its a help app.. with people and articles to help you...if you are still struggling.. i have literally had withdrawal symptoms from sex.. where my hands shook and i did not act like myself until i got some.... so to speak..

Patrick Tatireta's picture

Personal Behaviours

Hang in there Priapus. Well done.

Patrick Tatireta's picture

Personal Behaviours

What is the total population of the world? 3 to 7 billion.....? PEOPLE, EVEN TWINS ARE NOT MADE FROM THE SAME MOULD so we all differ in our own domain which drives us...THE BRAIN. It is amazing that when you make love to your wife or other, it is considered very proper but if one watches porn whether animal of human it is considered vulgar. Some people boost their sexual drive with pills, Viagra etc, some enjoy having fulfillment and are sexually aroused by having their spouse copulate with another, others are violent getting the arousal by inflicting pain and to some extent killing the victim. Others watch porn and are in overdrive. What then is the problem? God himself told Adam to enter his wife.

Was He watching? May be not, for we would call Him a pervert. People should mind their own affairs and deal with it openly and restrain themselves from having to concern themselves with other peoples' affairs. The answer is HONESTY. Let us wed a couple now. Man and Woman - Man and Man - Woman and Woman. Pretty soon we will wed Sodom and Gomorrah ................Human and Animal. If those who think this is all vulgar, the best weapon they can use to prevent this is, is through PRAYER. . . . . . . . . . .PERIOD. Do not hack into computers and tell people how to get sexually aroused.

May the Almighty have pity on us ALL. See you Judgement Day. I hope you (Mr. Porn Hacker) will be the first to enter the KINGDOM with flying colours since you are sinless, never viewing porn -
animal or else.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Religion

I have written this short piece, just to say to all who view this that I believe this. And that in no way do I mean to accuse any form of prejudice, or to cause any anger to upset to anyone. I just wanted to say, what I need to get out. And how I feel about the worlds views and thoughts on life today. BTW: I am only twelve years old, so please, no harsh comments. But in no way should I mean to restrict anyone in saying what they think about what I have said. ALL comments are appreciated!

Perhaps in the Bible 'God' said that Adam should 'enter' Eve. But you have no scientific proof that God actually existed. I mean, yes, there may have once been a man that called himself the 'all-knowing one!' But the Bible was actually written quite a few hundred years after 0 AD. The bible may well have been telling about a 'unearthly-being', but it was WRITTEN by a human! I know several hundreds of Christians, and all of them are my friends. In no way do I try to be prejudice, neither do I want to be; but I only need to say one thing to make ANY Christian think, is the following question: 'Do you believe in Dinosaurs?' Most people answer 'yes', for obvious reasons. But then, the bible clearly states that the Earth was created by 'God' 9000 years ago! Well as dinosaurs where around on the planet HUNDREDS OF MILLIONS OF YEARS AGO! You may think to yourself: 'fine, yes, maybe this is one mistake in the bible, but the rest of it MUST be true!

Just 800 years ago, we all thought that we where the cleverest people on Earth. But we 800 years later can clearly see that we where wrong! We think now that we are far more superior, that we know BEST now! But so did they and just a few centuries later, we realise that most of what they believed in, was pure bollocks! Science, is in NO WAY BETTER than ANY Religion! Even in science everyone can easily make mistakes. I mean , 30 years ago we believed that the atom was the smallest thing in the universe, then we split it in half and loads of other things came pouring out.

Just before I conclude my point, I just wanted you to think about this little point. EVERYTHING IN THE UNIVERSE CAN BE CHANGED, NO MATTER HOW DRILLED INTO THE MINDS OF OTHERS IT MAY BE! JUST REMEMBER THIS LITTLE FACT, THAT AS WELL AS THE RELIGIOUS BELIEF THAT 'JESUS CHRIST' BROUGHT CHRISTIANITY TO THE MINDS OF MEN, AS WELL AS THAT WE HAVE SCIENTIFIC KNOWLEDGE THAT CHRISTIANITY, WAS IN FACT BROUGHT TO EUROPE BY A JEWISH MAN! SO NOT EVERYTHING WE HAVE LEARNT FROM THE WORLD WE LISTEN TO IS ALWAYS CORRECT! (DO APOLOGIZE FRO TH CAPITOL LETTERS, MY COMPUTERS KEYBOARD HAS BEEN ACTING UP!)

Finally, I would just like to say the world would not be in any way the same, if we didn't have religion in our lives. Weather it be true or not, we can all get a form of happiness from it. It creates our world!

Here are a few quotes that make us think about life:

“Anyone who thinks sitting in church can make you a Christian must also think that sitting in a garage can make you a car.”

“I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.”

“Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.”

“Religion has convinced people that there's an invisible man ... living in the sky. Who watches everything you do every minute of every day. And the invisible man has a list of ten specific things he doesn't want you to do. And if you do any of these things, he will send you to a special place, of burning and fire and smoke and torture and anguish for you to live forever, and suffer, and suffer, and burn, and scream, until the end of time. But he loves you. He loves you. He loves you and he needs money.”

“Owners of dogs will have noticed that, if you provide them with food and water and shelter and affection, they will think you are god. Whereas owners of cats are compelled to realize that, if you provide them with food and water and shelter and affection, they draw the conclusion that they are gods.”

“Religion is like a pair of shoes.....Find one that fits for you, but don't make me wear your shoes.” (That one was mine) <3

I hope you enjoyed my little saying, I know that, for me, I feel great, to have said about those things finally!

Thank you for listening.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Husband watches Porn and Masterbates while in bed with me

My husband has been watching porn since he was a teenager. He is now 66 yrs old. We were married July 2013, not even a year ago. He now says he watches porn to help him urinate...does he really think I'm that stupid? He does have problems with incontinence but I don't think porn will help him..He also has narcolepsy and catalepsy but none of this would cause his problem with sex and porn.
We've talked about his addiction. He watches it everyday, every chance he gets. There have been two times with in the month that he has turned on a vibrator and picked up his phone while I was sleeping next to him to watch porn and masturbate. Just last night this happened. I'm devastated, I'm hurt, I have no self esteem. Both times, I have gotten up and slept on the couch so he could have "HIS" time with his porn, because I sure don't want to be there listening to all this and knowing what he is doing.

He is in the medical profession, (a doctor) he knows how humiliating this is for me, because we have discussed it over and over and over why does he do it? The more we talk about it, it seems the worse it gets. I have no desire for sex any more because I feel that if he has his porn, why does he need me? Besides, when we have sex, he closes his eyes like hes thinking about the women he watches on the porn sites. And he is getting rough during sex, like pulling my hair, biting,twisting my nipples. It HURTS!!

I'm at my wits end. I don't know what to do any more. When I mention it, he blames it on me. He wants me to get "dressed" up for bed. My ex husband wanted me to do the same, it was a fetish of his. Stockings, high heels, garters, etc. I feel that I can't go back to a relationship that I had with an abusive ex. And I've told him this. he stated that I spend hours getting dressed for church or shopping, but I can't get "dressed" for him. I did dress for him about a month ago. I went to bed around 10PM, he came to bed at 730 the next morning. I'll NEVER get dressed for him again. He was up all night watching porn, while I was waiting on him, until I finally went to sleep.

Adam's picture

She already has prayed and

She already has prayed and waited.

So sorry for your pain. He needs professional help(a therapist, celebrate recovery group). Specifically, he needs proper tools to overcome his brain patterns. I can imagine you're resigned about your marriage. Who can blame you?

When we arrive/find ourselves in these situations and don't know what to do, we become overwhelmed and eventually quit.

Not getting professional help for the both of you,(marriage councillor/therapist) is like building a house without an architect.

Keep searching!

Serendip Visitor's picture

Pray about it and leave it in

Pray about it and leave it in the Lords hands. Wait for his answer.

darek1001989's picture

pseudo-science

First Judith_Reisman and i know your article is joke
No scientific literature from the last 30 years could be found that includes the term "erototoxin http://www.newgon.com/wiki/Judith_Reisman#Controversy.
When an addict looks at porn, testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin are released, when you have sex this chemicals are not released ?
"There’s no direct one-to-one relationship between dopamine and addiction, and knowing that this particular brain chemical is released during an activity predicts nothing about how problematic the activity might be. As the dopamine system starts working when we encounter anything pleasurable, the popular myth would suggest everything we like could be addictive: reading books, scratching an itch, building model steamships out of matchsticks, whatever floats your boat."

and more recent study
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201307/your-brain-porn-its-not-addictive
In the past people say that if you masturbate you will blind.
Im not pro porn activist only don like when someone wrote something with knowledge lvl 0
"so why is it that viewing pornography, which is a mainly optical activity"
"new research finds that looking at erotic movies can actually quiet the part of the brain that processes visual stimuli."
http://www.livescience.com/19755-porn-shut-visual-brain.html
you sure lot wrote about brain change i say you something genius even when you doing simple task like grab glass of whater your brain change.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Scared

I, as most on these postings, have struggled with porn addiction. I am fighting hard to beat it but as has been mentioned, the images don't leave the mind. I had gotten carried away with my addiction and my wife confronted me since I was hiding it in humiliation. I excused as lowering my libido or making sure I still "had it". I promised to stop. I did for several months. I slipped up with just pic gazing, not even porn. My wife saw my phone history. It's hurt her all over again. Why does this have such control. I looked up to see if it was a disease and it had a cure. It's humiliating. I stumbled on to this and have read so many posts. I want to beat this. I love my wife. I didn't see it as hurting her but it does. It's habit. But is it more? That same conversation months ago brought up me sneaking smokes. I wasn't a smoker but I was. I smoked maybe a pack a month. I always said it was like cigars but it was smoking period. I've not touched a cigarette in over 3 months. Why can I best that addiction but slip on this one. Is it the chemical reaction I crave? When I was a teenager in the 80's it was the sears catelog. Then Victoria's Secret. Then playboy on on up to internet. It's tearing me apart. There's so many differing opinions. I just wanted to post being that I'm trying to conquer this "disease".

sharon's picture

Addiction

There is only one way to conquer this, and that is thru Jesus Christ! Man calls it a disease, God calls it sin of the flesh. This is a spirit of lust that has took over ur life. My husband stop having sex with me, couldn't figure out whats wrong with me? Later I found out he started looking at porn on the internet. Later I met someone else, fell in love come to find out he's more addicted then my husband. Pornography comes straight out of hell to kill, steal and destroy marriages and everything around it and those who partakers of it. You dont have power over a spiritual thing as this. Tt takes getting God in ur life and follow him as he shows you the way out.

Rick's picture

The Answer

I am with all of you, but I may be further down the road. You should try
This site was built by a science teacher, and his wife and they are highly educated on the subject. It was meant as a resource for 'porn addicts.' This is a disease and the site explains why, as it 'hijacks' the pleasure center of the brain. IE Dopamine. You are literally a drug addict, but you can recover.

If you think you can't stop, or are just confused and think there isn't hope please check it out.

There are links for help, via forums. etc.

Good Luck

S k's picture

solution

Just look yourself for your future and keep deft thinking in "As you think ,so you been."

Serendip Visitor's picture

I was an addict for 12 years

I had a porn addiction since I was 13 years old. I am now 25. I managed to quit for 1 year but then became addicted again. Nothing I did seemed to keep my mind distracted well enough to avoid looking at porn. But then I started reading the Bible and listening to God, and broke free of my addiction. I've been clean for going on 3 months now and have not felt even the slightest desire to read porn again. When I see pictures of stuff I used to like (on billboards and on magazine covers), it does not spark any interest in me.

I realized something that broke me of my addiction: We are currently locked in a war between God and Satan, and Satan's demons are what plague addicts. The demons keep your thoughts turned toward your sin; they have power over you because you allow it, and they will continue to berate you with the strong desire to indulge in your addiction again. This is all to use you in a war against God-- they enjoy having power over you simply because you are a creation of God, and convincing you to indulge over and over again is like taking a cheap potshot at God Himself. Demons are holding you prisoner, and the only way to remove your shackles is to turn your attention to God. You must realize that God has given each of us the ability to fight evil, to combat our own sin, and we are certainly rewarded for doing so (we find peace within ourselves that before was in constant turmoil). Satan will continue to beat you over the head with your sin, but if you turn to God, Satan does not stand a chance. God is always stronger and he will drag you out of your addiction with both hands. You just need to have faith and ask for His protection.

Dossan's picture

Good Post

Your post is a good one and I encourage you in your process to keep up the good work. If you do find you end up resorting to it again, don't fear, sometimes God allows omission to test your strength. But keep it up if that does ever happen. The more you continue in your prayerful path, the better you will be.

plz help's picture

my daughter....drugs and porn

I AM REALLY FEARFUL FOR MY DAUGHTERS LIFE,,,,SHE MEANT A MAN 20 YRS OLDER. WHO HAS BEEN IN PRISON AND IS A HORRIBLE MAN.. MY DAUGHTER TURNED 18 LAST FEB. THE PORN SHE IS DOING IS VERY SICK AND ABUSIVE.. VERY SICK AND SHE LOOKS VERY HIGH.THE PICTURE ARE A SLIDESHOW IN MY HEAD. PICTURES OF HER BEFORE SHE MEANT THIS MAN IS NOTHING LIKE WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE NOW ...SHE TALKS TO NOONE I DONT FEEL SHE IS SAFE AT ALL. THE LAST THING I WANT TO HEAR IS SHE IS 18 AND CAN DO WHAT SHE WANTS, I SO SICK OVER THIS AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.. PLZ HELP

Serendip Visitor's picture

your daughter

what youre going through is stressful and painful. it sounds like your daughter has gotten into porn after being taken advantage of by a man she met. you need to see a counsellor and talk about this problem with your husband. it is very important that you make your feeings known. make sure that whenever your daughter calls or gets in contact with you she realses that you love and support her,and remind her tha you are her mother.remind her that she is a family member you have raised to love and now that youre both adults, you canadvisor her because however desperate her life is, you are the person whose support will never waiver.

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Help your child through Back Flower Remedy and LOVE

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sunshine's picture

my 12 year old son

I am worried about my son and think he might have an addiction to pornography. I have caught him looking at it on the computer more than once and have recently found it on a cell phone browser history and my 4 year olds did. How do I address this and get him help? He has an I don't care attitude when I try to talk to him about it. Please help as he is my oldest of 6.

amit 's picture

get yourself the power!

1.make sure that there is none around who is into it, for thats the most certain way to get this thing. what we don't understand is that thoughts that we entertain stay around that place where we are. and they run to every person that comes in that place. the consciousness of some welcome it while that of others rejects it.
2. make sure to get him familiar with yoga, as thats the only way ever to get him out of it, in case it continues to stay with him, as is most likely. yoga that will finally occur to him in course of his involvement with the only yoga that you can find in this materialist world. yoga is only understood when one experiences it. identify his keen interests and facilitate him involve himself in that activity. keep him as busy as possible.
3. please! get a long term strategy that eventually helps him develop his consciousness, bcoz once he wants to get rid of it in future he knows how to deal with it. ah! how i suffered so badly myself and how badly did i struggle for 12 to 14 years before i found the solution. believe me it's so simple to get rid of it but only when u find that source of great power we all have.
4. if u can develop yourself, you can help him a lot. once you become conscious of thoughts, and silent your mind with practice, you get the power in that silence to remove these thoughts out of the mind of your kid. you can just will them to go away when they come from nature or rise from his subconscious mind.
5. have a long term strategy please!!!!!!
6. may god bless you and your kid.

Serendip Visitor's picture

I agree with this advice except...

I would leave out the part about the yoga. The practice of yoga is actually rather spiritual and it encourages people to empty their minds, rather than keeping their minds busy. And when a mind is empty, spiritual forces which may be keeping your son prisoner to porn can access his mind more easily...because it is empty. It is far, far wiser to concentrate your son's attention on something other than porn (I would suggest God, but if you're not religious then find something else...though it won't be nearly as effective). Emptying one's mind will only invite more bad things to enter it. FOCUS your child's attention, rather than attempting to surrender it altogether to some emptiness and the things that inhabit that emptiness.

Serendip Visitor's picture

it's so simple!

this chemical change in the body can easily be avoided. i realized it when one day i allowed this thought ( in the beginning of the end my own struggle with porn addiction) and how i felt it's effect in the body and i realized how this is what had been happening all these years of my struggle with porn. in case of porn addiction things move from mind to body and in case of alcoholic and other addictions ( although i cant be sure about drug addiction thing, as i never even seen any kind of drug or taken it) it's the brain or nervous system that forces the mind to think of taking drugs. anyway, all these things are very difficult in the beginning but as you begin to understand with practice and application, you can in the middle stage get to a point where you can even will the urge to move far away from you.
and let me tell you that the very thought that you should not look at the woman with sexual desire is completely a thing called suppression and no religious teaching of the nature of morality can ever help.the solution is to get beyond both good and bad thought, to get beyond mind. i visited almost every temple and spent time in so many spiritual organisations in india, studied their literature and did yoga and tantrik spiritual practice, i prayed to god, loved god. and this one day i moved to this ashram in dehradun, one city in india, where this lady saint that i was staying with, asked me just forget god, giving me such a shock. but i knew she was a saint. so whatever she said has to be what i have to do. and i started a different practice and when i progressed i understood the truth of what is mind and what is a spiritual practice. ah! how gigantic is the task of christ to get us to this particular stage where we can see what is what. before that we are fighting with the instruments of ignorance to fight and get out of ignorance.
anyway, i am not able to say what i wanna say coz that will require me to write a lot. but my prayers are with all those strugglingwith this or any kind of addiction. may Devine Mother bless us with her mercy.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Help me

Only Yoga Can Helps????? please reply me..
if you want to help me,, reply me on my email..
Thank you

Bibhu Prasad Mohanty's picture

Yoga alone can not help

Yoga also requires some supportive disciplines and remedies. Please use Bach remedies and homeopathy.

amit 's picture

yes i would love to!

dear! i so badly want to help anyone who wishes to help himself.
but its so unfortunate that i am far away from you people. and i cant write all that i want to say. it would be great to talk to you people in person and explain to you the sure remedy to this seemingly big trouble.
yes. after suffering and struggling so badly with this trouble for 14 years. but when the solution came, this trouble was nothing. i could simply will it to disappear. i am right brother. its that easy. i got the solution bcoz my elders here in india from time immemorial have put in great efforts into the understanding the inner psychology and consciousness. and the psychology that u study in the west and in india is for kids. let me tell you. to understand the source of this trouble is to solve it once and for all.

Really God worries about people!'s picture

Entropy Believer

I came to this site looking for an insight to a mental understanding and behavior pattern for sexual deviancy or sexual escape desires. It very much interests me and would like peoples opinions on why you think our God cares if you watch pornographic material. There is a socially acceptable limit always changing. In the 70's if a lady had a foot on the floor in the movie no sex was being had. In 2010 everything is seen apart from penetration. This is just mainstream movies. Pornography has moved from 70's general pictures of genitalia to well everything in HD.

My question why would this be a religious area. Adam and Eve were sparsely clothed, You could not eat meat on Friday and no work was to be done on a Sunday. If you are Catholic Condoms were not to be worn and are still frowned upon by the Catholic Church.

Why are we worried about what we see now in 20 years time it will be considered Cave paintings. Just a thought, and do not wish to upset anyone.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Why?

Why do some believe that God cares whether or not you like porn? Depends . . . if you are basing your religious beliefs on Church Philosophies that often do change on the whims of the people, then you're right. In 20 years, looking at porn now might not matter.

You stated "There is a socially acceptable limit always changing." That is true.

However, if you base your faith on the Bible, which the Churches are supposed to support and which some believe to be the word of God, then you know that God does NOT change.

The scriptures are clear on our moral obligations toward God IF you want a relationship with Him or to be considered his friend. Man's worship is acceptable when we try to live in harmony with God's standards which are quite clear. He has laid out laws/principles in regards to our conduct, which include our sexual behavior.

According to the Scriptures, in order to be a friend of God, you must be holy as he is holy.

This includes acknowledging that as your creator he has the right to set the standard of right and wrong for you, which includes what he considers appropriate sexual behavior.

As the creator of sex, he has the right to express the way he wanted it to be used and to set the guidelines as he is God.

So to answer your question, why would God care?

In order to answer according to Scripture . . . it is because he desires all of his children to be reconciled him and to have a relationship with him and this cannot be done if you aren't being a friend to him and deliberately offending him with behavior that he finds unacceptable.

All of this is based on scripture and it's up to the individual what to believe.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Celebrate Recovery

I have suffered from Porn addiction since the age of 18. I am a 31 year old female. When I was at my worst I couldn't hold down a job, my marriage was in shambles, and I felt like I was all alone. I am so happy I came upon this site because the last few days I have really been struggling with not looking. I haven't but this will be a good site for me to come to when I am struggling. It is very hard to be a woman with an addiction that most people think of as a dominantly male condition. I am almost 18 months porn free. I would not have even gotten this far with out the help of celebrate recovery and a God who loves me. Celebrate Recovery is a 12 step Christ Based of recovery program. That helps people with their hurts, habbits, and hang ups. I have tried other self help programs not necessarily for this issue but this is the only one that I had left feeling better then when I came in... Before CR I was an angry sad and very lonely person. I pray that each and everyone of you will feel God's love some point in your lives while you are struggling and will know when to lean on Him. Porn addiction is a misunderstood condition and the more of us who speak up about in our programs the more we will realized that we are not alone in this situation. I want to thank the creator of this blog for such a supportive and comforting place for people who suffer from this addiction to learn and realize that we don't have to suffer in silence.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Advice?

I'm a 26 year old female and have been struggling with lust and porn since I can remember. I can completely relate with feeling alone as society sees this issue as mainly a male problem. Up until a year ago I felt completely alone because I thought I was so broken and beyond help being a woman and addicted to porn. Now, I still struggle and honestly it currently seems to be getting worse...I know God loves me and is there but I feel like I need to take extreme measures to stop. I'm worried that its really going to do damage to my relationship with my boyfriend that I've been with for over 3 years now. Help?

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If you are having sex

Then it won't help you either way. You need to stop the porn and sex all together. You should not be in a relationship until you can get practice self control and get your life right with God.

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Po-n Addict

My friend, I have been largely porn free for a year. I had always used it for a month or two during the year to De-stress. If I was not in a relationship. Now, it is back with a vengeance!. This time it nearly owns me! Almost a full week, i cant shake it, and I am a follower of Christ! I believe movies and internet have hidden imagery, I know it has been used for decades to sell food, clothes and goods, but now it's being used to steal our 'life essence. The drug 'dopamine is released in the brain and becomes an addiction. It is very likely the dregs in the cup in the hand of the woman called 'Mystery Babylon... in the bible. The seed was planted in us many years b4 and quietly, slowly grew a deep root in our psyche/soul. I quit smoking, drugs, alcohol with Gods help, but this one is much stronger. I believe God is showing us we need His spirit and strong obedience in tandem to overcome this one. I have always been a Strong man, but now I know how weal I can be. We need More of God for sure!! Lions and Lambs

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porn addiction

Sexaholics anonymous! Aka SA. It is a wonderful 12 step program for sex addiction. Yes that's porn too. I am a recovering alcoholic. Three years sober now. And I have plenty of friends (including a husband) who are clean and sober do to this program. Some of my friends have anywhere from 11-15 years sober. If you truly want to be free from yourself and your addiction then I suggest you work this program. And go to a meeting. They are absolutely free and they are everywhere. I hope this helps.

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unexpected return

I am 18 years old and I am a Christian today. When i met Christ almost 2 years ago, i declared that i would stop watching porn because i believe that since he died for me, i no longer live for myself, but for him. I was almost fully successful in totally getting rid of my disgusting desire(of course with His help) but after a few months later, i started to feel hungry for porn again. Almost every other week, i would go to the computer to do some "research"(actually i really have a research to do) but then I would end up searching for porn. With God's help i would defeat this temptation, and stop it for a month. But it keeps on coming back! Until i realized that i would fall to this sin of watching porn every month! Every month i would keep this mind far away from porn as long as possible, but there will always be a day when i will fall. I try to not think about it but the random stuff in the internet make me wonder and remember all the porn i watched and then i would end up being hungry for it again! How can i fully stop it?? I know, with His help I can, but for my part, are there other ways to not fall?? I want to totally stop it.. I start to feel so ashamed every time i go to church. and the worst part is that i am a lead worshiper volunteer in church! please pray for me..

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We can overcome the PORN with help of AllAh

Hi Serendip Visitor , I am born in Hindu religion , I learned every good activities through fear of god, but i couldn't control Watching Porn videos . Same thing what happened in your life , it happened to me also every months one time i will fail in front of this porn addict.I will make a decision that if i watch the porn video next time in my life ,i will get punishment through god, But my thoughts didn't allow me to control this thing , it was continued in my life . then i started to search a real god if god is their he will help me to defuse this sin, While searching the i came to Know that idols are not a god . then i started to study the Bible ,i believed Jesus is my lord ,He will help me . But i don't Know changes in my life same thing have been continued in my life. I studied both Hindu's scripture and Bible both are explains that their is only one god. and also i am praying to Jesus and i started to going Church , but still i couldn't stop that , after watching that videos i will cry to lord , why i cant control this , i will pray to lord that please strengthen me, but i couldn't, then 1 year same thing happened to me even i not changed . one day , unfortunately i watched a one youtube video that bible is god's word nor not ? its a one type of debate b/w Ahmed deedat vs jimmy swaggart. finally i came to Know, that many of contradiction's are their in bible . Then i got one more news about Jimmy swaggart

On October 11, 1991, Swaggart for a second time was found in the company of a prostitute, Rosemary Garcia, when he was pulled over by a police officer in Indio, California, for driving on the wrong side of the road. According to Garcia, Swaggart stopped to proposition her on the side of the road. She later told reporters, "He asked me for sex. I mean, that's why he stopped me. That's what I do. I'm a prostitute. This time, rather than confessing to his congregation, Swaggart told those at Family Worship Center that "The Lord told me it's flat none of your business." Swaggart's son Donnie then announced to the stunned audience that his father would be temporarily stepping down as head of Jimmy Swaggart Ministries for "a time of healing and counseling Show less

He is the preacher ,He couldn't stop doing wrong things .then what about as. think it.
Say; "O PEOPLE OF THE BOOK!(TORAH , GOSPELS)
COME TO COMMON TERMS AS BETWEEN US AND YOU:
THAT WE WORSHIP NONE BUT GOD: THAT WE ASSOCIATE NO PARTNERS WITH HIM(SURAH AAL-E-IMRAN,VERSE-64)

IN JUDAISM,
"HEAR ,ISRAEL:THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE LORD"(DEUT 6:4)

"I EVEN I ,AM THE LORD; AND BESIDES ME THERE IS NO SAVIOR" (ISAIAH)

"I AM GOD , AND THERE IS NONE ELSE : I AM GOD ,AND THERE IS NONE LIKE ME"(ISAIAH 46:9)

"THOU SHALT HAVE NO OTHER GOD'S BEFORE ME, THOU SHALT NOT MAKE THEE ANY GRAVE IMAGE , OR LIKENESS OF ANYTHING THAT IS IN HEAVEN ABOVE, OR THAT IN THE EARTH BENEATH...THOU SHALT NOT BOW DOWN THYSELF UNTO THEM , NOR SERVE THEM (DEUT 5:7-9)

IN CHRISTIANITY :
"MY FATHER IS GREATER THAN I"(JOHN 14:28)

"MY FATHER IS GREATER THAN ALL" (JOHN 10:29)

"I CAST OUT DEVILS BY THE SPIRIT OF GOD" (MATTHEW 12:28)

"I CAN OF MINE OWN SELF DO NOTHING ; AS I HEAR , I JUDGE : AND MY JUDGEMENT IS JUST : BECAUSE I SEEK NOT MINE OWN WILL, BUT THE WILL OF THE FATHER WHICH HATH SENT ME"(JOHN 17:3)

"AND THE WORD WHICH YE HEAR IS NOT MINE, BUT MY FATHER'S WHICH HAS SENT ME"(JOHN 17:3)

"AND HE SAID UNTO HIM , WHY CALLEST THOU ME GOOD ? THERE IS ,GOD ; BUT IF THOU WILL ENTER INTO LIFE , KEEP THE COMMANDMENT'S".(MATTHEW 19 :17)

THIS WORD'S ARE JESUS SAID:

"HEAR ,ISRAEL:THE LORD OUR GOD IS ONE LORD"(MARK 12:29)

I HOPE YOU GOT MY ANS , STILL I AM NOT YET STARTED TO STUDY QURAN ,BUT "ALLAH " WILL GUIDE ME .when i started to pray Allah after that when ever that thoughts are come now i can control that through Allah.

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For God so LOVED the

For God so LOVED the world.......

His love is eternal. Nothing you can do can change what Jesus did for you and me. I am 43 and am still batteling with this weakness. I love God and He loves me. I have overcome this battle and fallen so many times BUT the Holy spirit told me this one morning when I was in the shower crying why I kept falling to this deed( hope this sets you free like it has me.) is anybody living or past wiggly sin? Do you think it is possible to get to the point where we stop sinning. The truth is this - NO. ( here comes a smack in the evil ones face) No, no one can be so holy as not to "stumble" and fall. it is writen no one is without sin..... If it was possible for man to stop sinning, then Jedus did not have to die on the cross.
!!!! even Jesus fell a few times carrying the cross, BUT HE GOT UP EACH TIME AND KEPT ON..... When you fall, get up and run towards Christ not away.... He understands. His grace is sufficient. ........

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Friend, it's true that none

Friend, it's true that none of us is without sin. Only Jesus can claim that distinction. But He offers to live inside us (Colossians 1:27), in our hearts. If we accept, it's no longer we who live; instead, it's Christ who lives in us (Galatians 2:20).

So although *I myself* can never stop sinning, praise God that I *can* stop—"yet not I, but Christ [who] liveth in me"! Living in me, He'll control my actions and my desires if I let Him.

Wonderfully, God not only forgives but also "is able to keep [us] from falling" (Jude 24). That's great hope for addicts like us! Full dependence on Him to live inside us, and zero trust in our own "bodies of death," is what we need.

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Food for thought...

That's precisely why I became an ex-Christian because the church never once offered a real solution to eliminate the desire, they simply made excuses and gave me cop outs saying "that's what grace is for" instead of just being honest and saying "I have no idea how you can overcome that problem and I'm telling you to just turn it over to God because I'm too dishonest to just admit the shortcomings of my beliefs as I don't want you questioning anything as you are supposed to be a sheep who thinks and acts like I tell you to act-besides, if you continue for the rest of your life to struggle with that problem with us always promising you that next breakthrough is right around the corner, you never question your sinner status and therefore you keep coming back to this alleged grace and hanging on by the skin of your teeth. Eliminate the problem and you would have no reason to do as I tell you to". If you want the desire to go away, YOU must do the job yourself-end of story. Keep waiting on "god" or whatever else you believe in to "remove this sin from your life" and it will always be hit and miss, hit and miss. I would go so far to say that whether you believed in "God" or not, assuming that you didn't and you wanted to quit looking at porn because it was causing you problems at work, you would have the SAME difficulty resisting it that you have "relying on God". You could try mantra chanting and focusing on a mandala which empowers YOU to do the job yourself. You could also use Neural Linguistic Programming which is still YOU doing the job yourself. You could go get hypnotized which is still HUMAN power overcoming the problem. So many options and without any ghosts and goblins or gods and devils (take your pick-maybe the Loch Ness monster or Big Foot even), you never have to ask yourself as I used to whether the obvious common sense solution was either "God answering my prayers" or "the devil tempting me". Talk about a confusing and pointless waste of the brain I was born with. The only way to totally stop looking at porn is to eliminate the desire which is one thing Christianity (as you have already experienced) is incapable of RELIABLY doing for you every day. Why else would so many Christians go to 12 step programs which look more like new age/eastern religions? If "Jesus" worked so well to eliminate-that's right, I said ELIMINATE the problem as though it doesn't exist, why do 12 step programs exist? He should be sufficient WITHOUT the 12 steps right? Of course we have to tip toe and tap dance around the obvious because we can't admit the obvious-saying the steps were "Gods way of answering my prayers" is merely a cop out instead of admitting that my "relationship" (but that' just my code word for religion) is incapable of fixing my problem because if it was capable I would have overcome that problem YEARS ago.

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Wow! A Passionate Comment Worth a Solid Response

Prometheus, your reply sounds like you understand a LOT about the shortcomings of Christians when it comes to living their professed morals in our sex-obsessed culture. Well written and well thought out. Seriously. I can tell from your comment you are a smart guy with a lot to say (no sarcasm intended, honest).

I also detected a deep reservoir of anger and disappointment with God over the issue of porn as well as other issues? Just a guess, but it seemed clear enough I wanted to respond to the feelings behind your words. Presumptuous, I know, but I hope you will receive these comments in the spirit they are intended.

I am a Christian who teaches men, many if not most of them Christian, how to overcome and eliminate their addiction to porn. It's a simple process, much like a placebo treatment like acupuncture, that interrupts the brain's habituated pattern of thinking/feeling/responding to porn triggers. It's simple, but it works.

Unfortunately, I find I must spend a great deal of time with my Christian clients explaining to them why God has not and will not simply "take away" or "eliminate" they're desire for pornography. The example I use is my own diabetes.

Hunger for food and the enjoyment of the same is a survival tool intended to keep us alive. Right? But for the first time in human history we have more than enough food for our survival and eating too much of it (the sin of gluttony, by the way) promotes a medical condition called "Diabetes". Of, as they have taken to calling it, "Metabolic Syndrome X".

Now, is it reasonable for me to pray and expect God to change my biological nature, the hunger mechanism that helps keep me alive, simply because I did not learn to exercise self control when I was younger? And don't want to learn self control now? Even though it could eventually kill me? (This of course assumes there is not something hidden in our "modern" foods promoting Diabetes that I could easy remove if I knew about it.)

I don't think so. Of course not! We are expected to learn and exercise self control. It's even listed as one of the fruit of the Spirit. God will not do what He expects us to do.

Yet that is what Christian men expect God to do simply because we now live in a world with unprecedented access to powerful, sexually arousing media. He's not going to do it, He's not in the business of changing our biological nature. Not yet. He's promised to later, but that's at the a resurrection. He does not alter our human nature just as He does not automatically heal diseases supernaturally as a matter of course.

Sometimes He does. That's why we call them miracles.

Still, I pray for my sick friends and anyone I am asked to pray for, and I look to God to work His will in their situation. But I do not assume He intends to heal them by a supernatural act every time.

The process for obtaining freedom from pornography I teach, sometimes called EFT, sometimes TFT (depending on who is teaching it) is so simple but powerful that it eliminates porn compulsions instantly. It did so for me over seven years ago. And it has for most all of the men I have worked with.

The problem that quickly becomes apparent after they obtain this freedom from their porn compulsion, a problem that I would have denied to my dying day, is this:

We are "addicted" to porn because we WANT to watch it. Not because we are FORCED to watch it.

And why is that? Because it feels good. And it feels good because it simulates sex (mirror neurons and all that) and sex is SUPPOSE to feel good. Sex is essential to our survival.

Why this distinction is important is because once we remove porn behavior from the realm of a COMPULSION we have no control over, it becomes a matter of moral choice. A challenge to our free will.

By what values will I live? By what rules will I govern my sexuality? And God can no more MAKE you choose sexual purity than He can make you love your wife. Or Him.

Once a Christian man has gained freedom from the compulsive aspect of his porn behavior it isn't long before he's asking me, "So how do I stop WANTING to use porn?"

And that was a question I did not have an easy answer for for a long time. Now I do. Unfortunately, I don't have time to go into that here. If you want, you can email me at thomasxgodson@gmail.com and we can discuss it further. You sound like an interesting, articulate guy.

I hope you reconnect with God some day, Prometheus. You sound like you miss Him. I think I was once where you are and I know I did. Miss Him, that is.

God's best.

TomG.

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The Porn Freedom Process

OK. I'm going to go out on a limb here because it grieves me to see Christians struggling with porn like I used to and nothing seems to work. They think Jesus has to reach into their hearts and manipulate their desires and make them no longer like porn. It's not gonna happen.

Why not? For the same reason God isn't going to take away my desire for sugar and refined carbohydrates just because our world of plenty is awash in them and I'm now a diabetic. What He expects me to do is control my diet and use whatever medical means are a ails me to increase my sensitivity to insulin.

Do I pray and ask for His help while I do this? You bet I do! But I also take my meds.

What's that got to do with porn? Am I saying there is a medical treatment for porn addiction?

Sort of. Check out the veterans stress project and then go to getpornhelpdotcom. At the veterans stress project you will learn about a technique called EFT. Emotional Freedom Technique. This simple procedure is freeing war veterans with diagnised PTSD in less than SIX sessions. The work is now getting peer-reviewed. I used it to break my nearly ten year addiction to pornography and I wrote a couple books about it.

How The problem Christians have with it is how its practitioners say it works. I'm not going to go into all that, except to say I have a much better and simpler explanation. It works by interrupting the pattern of porn-seeking emotions and behaviors. That's all.

If you smack a dog on the nose for peeing on the carpet eventually he will learn not to do that. What people don't understand is you don't have to hit the dog hard. It's not the hitting that breaks the Dog's behavior but the interruption.

With EFT (and my application of it to porn, PCP - the porn freedom process), all you are doing by tapping on your face, chest and hands while feeling the feeling triggering you to run do porn is interrupting the connection between your mind thinking about porn, your brain responding by making your body feel lust and your body moving to go get the porn. It's that simple.

But it's not easy. I had HUNDREDS of habituated thought-feeling-action behaviors and each one had to be addressed.

But I am free of any porn compulsions today. I still have to deal with normal male lust, after all, both food and sex are essential to life. But I am no longer controlled or compelled or compulsed to watch porn.

Who could ask for anything more?

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In due time.

Stop beating yourself up first, all things through Christ Jesus, so don't look to others for forgivness. Forgive yourself, work hard and take it one momnet at a time..

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overcome

Hi there! I just got out of Bible study tonight and we were talking about this topic so I decided to read up on what porn does to the brain. I must admit that I was entirely surprised at how many people are trapped in this thing. As a Christian myself I read your post and decided to write you and advise you on a few things in this area. First thing, if I was in your place I would sit myself down as a lead worshiper at your church until I got victory over this thing. If you ask yourself why then ask yourself this would the pastor allow you to remain worship leader knowing you were watching porn? Be honest with yourself. Plus under the anointing, you can transfer that spirit to the congregation too. It's a serious deal.
Going back to what you wrote, you having a hunger for this stuff. Well to defeat it you are going to have to starve your flesh from watching porn instead of feeding it. If you are filled with the Holy Spirit w/the evidence of speaking in other tongues then begin praying in other tongues for an hour or work yourself up to an hour. If you are not filled with the Holy Spirit then get the free gift from God. He's your helper. As you pray in tongues you will be building your spirit man to the point to where your spirit is stronger than your flesh. This is what you need and the only way to build that spirit man up is by praying in tongues. You will also need to meditate on the Word of God. This is to get your mind off of porn and fixed on the Word. You will need to listen to tapes, CD's, MP3's, etc...of someone preaching the Word of God to you. Do this on a continual basis and regularly. Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. And if there are certain behaviors, places, or views that set off this desire to look at porn then don't go there anymore. Do yourself a favor and protect yourself. If you need software filters then invest in buying a good filter for your computer and block out those sites. And lastly, seek spiritual help or counsel from someone who is spiritually discerning. You will want someone who will not play any games but will help you.
Remember the Word states to be a doer of the Word and not a hearer only deceiving yourselves. Far too often people ask for prayer but they aren't willing to do what is necessary themselves to overcome adversity. Yes this is work but its the Kingdom's way. Either you believe it or you don't...the choice ultimately is yours my friend. Stay strong and of good courage.

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Too bad for God

Maybe we should all stay home and refrain from serving Jesus until we are "good enough". But hey, then who need Jesus. I think a person who knows they are struggling is a lot closer to God than you pompas "Jerks" who hide there sin or worse, are ignorant of it. Perhaps Paul should have resigned
"Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh,"

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Just keep asking god for help

Just keep asking god for help and forgiveness he always comes threw. God came to
Save the sinners not the saints. Kirk Franklin is a
Wonderful gossip singer and he had the same problem
And he gives it to god. The enemy wont let you forget
But god will and can and he will give you strength
He is our strength. The bible says confess your
Sins out loud so others can pray for you, so I will
Keep you in my prayers. One more thing threw
Our sin god calls us to serve don't let your sin
Hold you back from worshiping him instead let
Worshiping our heavily father hold you back from sinning.
And with god we get better everyday(:

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im in need of help

Hi everyone im 16 yr old girl and im addicted to watching porn amd getting sexual relief from it and its so embarrasing and i know that in the paat i was sexually abused and i think that nas something to do with the way i am

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ah! i wish i could make u understand the proablem and solution

hi i had been struggling with this too for twelve years from the age of 18 to 30 but my struggle never stopped. i would feel so guilty conscious that i would leave home and would spend nights on the streets and fasting for long. ah! how bad did i make myself suffer, i cant even believe that i could do it.
anyways, finally i understood the root of trouble after 12 years struggle. it has changed me so totally. ah! my heart overflows with love and joy every moment of my life. the time has stopped and i am merged in peace and joy.
i am free from it now. and i can tell anyone interested the way out. and my experience shows that nothing else will work. all these people on the net suggesting so many tools are nothing but useless stuff in the long run. you may feel i am arrogant but that's not at all the case. these people themselves have no idea of the nature of trouble. they are still in mind, and anyone who has not gotten out of mind and mastered it can hope to understand and solve the problem.
well in my journey there came a time when instead of remorse i laughed at my guilty conscience and that was beginning of the end of my trouble. and beginning of totally new life out of ignorance.
well anyone interested to know more can please write to me. i would love to share with you everything about life, troubles, struggles and sunshine that finally descended.
know me to be your servant, your true friend you will find me. i always looked for one selfless person in my life who i could share the burden of my life with and found only two so far. and they own my heart and life. ah! they are such sweet gems. one of them lives all alone for months in a cave deep in Himalayas. he is the only person who understand me, i know what he is .
ah! selflessness and selfless care and love is the most sublime poetry.
please. all of you who struggle with porn, talk to me. i will give you everthing i can to help you. i want nothing from you. if you want i would even come to your place to help you. i would even help you with the strength of my will if you are sincere. as you may need that in beginning.
well! i have so much to share but let me see if you think you should ask my help.
wish you all the best. and let me tell you you really can stop it. you can email me also at

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Husbands email

Please email him his issues go way back as a teen ager, very addicted to porn dating sites you tube pole dancing. He lies about it but I always am able to track it. It doesn't bother me anymore as I stopped caring a long time ago. 10 years in and I am not staying or dealing with this any longer. He needs serious help or his 3rd future relationship will fail. His 43 and no women should have to feel like their not good enough. Please share your ideas with him. He has every men's battle the book and tapes and he never has followed it. He lies to my face all the time.

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same situation

hey i m feeling same problem.Last 7 year i was daily watching porn nd erotic story these stuff vanish my mind and i m feeling very high desire to .... girl that is very shameful for me and this is also shameful for social world. ok but nw i want leave these thing.

best of luck u

nd u bless me!

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Help me

Hi everyone. I'm a 14 year old guy addicted to porn. Ironically, I stumbled upon this site while searching for porn. As I started reading this, I shortly afterwards closed all the tabs of porn I had. I've been addicted for a while. A couple years, 3 I believe. So far, my addiction hasn't affected me in a major way, but I just want to get over it. Please, pray for me and give me any suggestions. May your God(s) (if any) bless you all.

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i understand

porn can be a annoying thing to deal with. i've been dealing with it for i don't know 8 years about. longest stretch i went without has been 6 months about. yet with my OCD and constant thinking/over-thinking i went back into it. what ever the reasons for you be to viewing it i don't judge nor blame you and i certainly don't look down on you or anybody with problems. i know how it is to have a crappy life and to have porn ruin that life if not just muck it up a bit. no matter what you believe in or who you believe in to be a God is to be good and forgiving, loving and kind, understanding and accepting. theres other thing but know that God both loves and forgives you. he's in your head believe it or not so he knows you, he knows why you did what you did and knows how hard it is for you.

some people believe God gets mad or angry but he doesn't, he doesn't even get sad. he looks at you and sees his son, his child. someone that he would give everything for and depending on your views he has. always remember the rut you are in now will not last, there is always time for forgiveness, redemption, and so much more. if you believe in God then believe he can do anything. believe he can take care of you no matter how mucked up you are and no matter what may be said about him. he is selfless for us, our own guilt can be our hell.

know you can get past it, have patience, and never give up.

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